People often don’t ask for help until it’s too late. I think in particular men have a hard time doing this, as we’re often told that it’s a sign of weakness. (i.e. We’re about as likely to ask for help, as we are to ask for directions. lol)
Over the last 17 years I’ve gone through a lot, more than some people, less than others. Through it all I’ve just kept swimming. I’ve always believed that if I worked hard enough I could fix anything.
It was that belief that got me through my daughter Alex’s 5+ year battle against Leukemia starting in 1998, and my son Nick’s 14 week premature birth in 2002. During those rough years I started a successful company (Alex’s Coupons) that not only helped pay for Alex’s treatment, but also generated enough income for my family to live on. By 2005 it was doing so well that I was able to donate over $20,000 to the charities (Starlight Children’s Foundation, LLS, & others) who were there for my family when we needed them.
Since Alex’s Leukemia treatment ended in 2003, we’ve continued to face a lot of challenges:
- The after effects of Alex’s Leukemia treatment and two cord blood transplants, which have included brain damage, grand mal seizures, bone tumor, cataracts, and pituitary system failures.
- The failure of Alex’s Coupons, bankruptcy, foreclosure and other financial problems.
- The death of my Father.
Through it all I’ve always found a way to keep going, but I’ve reached a point in my life where I can’t do it on my own anymore. This time is different. I need help.
Last October I made a decision to leave my comfortable job at HasOffers for a job at another local startup. The position seemed like a great fit for me. Director of Marketing for a startup in a field that I find interesting. A better salary, equity in the company and a chance to build a marketing department from the ground up. I believed it was a stable company that would allow me to provide a more stable life for my kids.
Last week after only three months, the CEO of the startup I was working for announced that he had a new vision for the company. The next day he called me into the conference room and told me that I didn’t share his vision. Without any prior warning he terminated me on the spot.
If I was in a more stable place financially I would be able to weather this latest storm, but like a lot of people these days I live paycheck to paycheck. I have no savings, no assets (aside from an 11 year old car) and lots of financial responsibilities including a $2500/month child support payment, COBRA health insurance, rent and other bills that need to be paid. I come from a small working class family who have helped me as much as they can in the past, but their financial situation is no better than mine and they all live on the east coast.
I’m now left with the daunting task of replacing the nearly $6000 in monthly net income that I’ve lost in the next 5-6 weeks. If I can’t I will have to break the lease on my apartment, put all my things in storage, move for the 7th time in 7 years (to where I don’t know), and once again uproot my kids. Everything I’ve done over the last few years has been to establish a more stable life for me and my kids. I can’t bear the thought of putting my kids through another move only a few months after our last one, and with the added uncertainty of whether they will be able to live with me or if I’ll even be able to remain in the Seattle area.
I know this time that I can’t fix everything on my own. I’ve already reached out to several of my friends and acquaintances and I know they are keeping an eye out for me, but I need this to go beyond my usual network. I need help finding:
- Contracting work that will allow me to pay the bills for the next 3-6 months while I search for a new full time position. (It’s almost always taken that long for me to find a new job.)
- A senior level marketing position with a stable company, preferably in the Seattle area.
I would really appreciate it if all of you would share this post with your friends, family and business network. If you want to learn more about my work experience you can view my Linkedin profile, download a copy of my resume (short version | long version), or email me at fxmartini at gmail dot com. I’ve also written a short bio of myself:
Todd Martini is a Digital Marketer with over 16 years of experience working for both startups and established companies. He has a strong background in Digital Strategy, PPC & Retargeting, SEO, Social Media, Content Marketing, and Email Marketing. He has a strong entrepreneurial background, as evidenced by his founding of two digital startups. The first was a Web Development agency in 1995 and the second, one of the first Internet couponing sites in 2001. He is also a dedicated father of a childhood leukemia survivor, and has devoted a great deal of time and resources to supporting Childhood Cancer charities and increasing awareness for patients and their families.
Thanks for taking the time to read this. If you want to learn more about my family’s personal story you can read about it at Alex’s Place.
Have a great day!